Thursday, January 17, 2013

Sugar Daddys for College Tuition

There is a "new" way to pay for school... SeekingArrangement.c​om is a site that caters to the business side of a relationship... many students have been registering on the site to make enough money to pay for school so they aren't riddled with debt when they graduate; this is nothing new really. This is akin to the stripper making her way through med school, these coeds just won't have the employment history to put on their resumes.
MSN Money Article by Bruce Kennedy

Men with wealth and social status have always enjoyed the company of beautiful young women at whatever the price. And women have enjoyed the monetary and social benefits of partnering with these men regardless of the emotional connection. I can honestly believe that cavemen probably had arrangements with lovely cavewomen when they needed to attend the annual "Save the Saber Tooth Tiger Gala"... Ya know, somehow she had to make rent on that penthouse cave she got herself into.

So for a moment lets take actual "paid for sex" out of the picture and talk about the grey area... a paid companion or date that doesn't sleep with whomever hires her. Is this the same as prostitution? Or is this simply the dating game minus the butterflies and hopes of marriage with a pay check... does every woman need every date to be a potential husband? And who are we to judge these people for wanting companionship without the commitment of marriage? We rent a tux for an event... rent clothes that other people have worn to look your best for an event. She's kind of like a tux. Actresses are paid for love scenes, with people we know they don't love, but it's considered art... could this be considered performance art?

Once money changes hands the judgment begins... that somehow the money dirties the date. Money can just be considered the transfer of energy... She is a hired companion paid for her time and beauty, and she pays the money to further her education and broaden her mind... I tend to have the thought if you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, carry on. But you have to TRULY know that you are OK with what you are doing.

Our chemistry as women tends to betray us in this area when we want to be emotionally detached... hormone Oxytocin known as the "cuddle hormone" is released in larger doses in women when we connect with men. This hormonal reaction will occur whether this is the love of your life or a date to the symphony so it can help with the bond or possibly make you miserable if you live through heightened pleasure without the bond of a true relationship.

So nothing is solved, except the tuition bill. But my question to these women is how do you explain that you have no debt after medical school to the guy you want to marry? And are you truly ok with what you're doing? If the answer is "I'm ok" I have to go with that and realize that it's going to be a matter of your own taste and moral compass... I don't see anything "wrong" with it as a practice, just that it would've been "wrong" for me.

Love Well. Love Wisely.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Justin Bieber Bound

Today is momentous... I am taking my 8 year old daughter to her first concert to see the tween dynamo... Justin Bieber. There's a part of me that wishes it was Disney on Ice; mostly because the pitch of the screams would be missing at a Disney show, but also because this is the beginning of boys entering her radar. I will nurture these "crushes" on rock stars, and actors as long as I can since I don't have to ever worry about them in our daily reality... but it is a reminder that the reality is just around the corner and I'm bracing myself.

Here's to the throes and woes of motherhood...

Love Well. Love Wisely.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

5 Reasons Why Divorce is Your Fault

Thought this was a very interesting article on Huffington Post... good read.
Women: 5 Reasons Why Divorce Is Your Fault

While I hate the word "Fault" in the title it is designed to make you want to read what we're being blamed for... it worked. I read the article. Really what it talks about is taking responsibility for your part of the relationship and changing the only part that you have control to change... yourself.
It's a good read.

Love Well. Love Wisely.