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Sugar Daddys for College Tuition

There is a "new" way to pay for school... SeekingArrangement.c​om is a site that caters to the business side of a relationship... many students have been registering on the site to make enough money to pay for school so they aren't riddled with debt when they graduate; this is nothing new really. This is akin to the stripper making her way through med school, these coeds just won't have the employment history to put on their resumes.
MSN Money Article by Bruce Kennedy

Men with wealth and social status have always enjoyed the company of beautiful young women at whatever the price. And women have enjoyed the monetary and social benefits of partnering with these men regardless of the emotional connection. I can honestly believe that cavemen probably had arrangements with lovely cavewomen when they needed to attend the annual "Save the Saber Tooth Tiger Gala"... Ya know, somehow she had to make rent on that penthouse cave she got herself into.

So for a moment lets take actual "paid for sex" out of the picture and talk about the grey area... a paid companion or date that doesn't sleep with whomever hires her. Is this the same as prostitution? Or is this simply the dating game minus the butterflies and hopes of marriage with a pay check... does every woman need every date to be a potential husband? And who are we to judge these people for wanting companionship without the commitment of marriage? We rent a tux for an event... rent clothes that other people have worn to look your best for an event. She's kind of like a tux. Actresses are paid for love scenes, with people we know they don't love, but it's considered art... could this be considered performance art?

Once money changes hands the judgment begins... that somehow the money dirties the date. Money can just be considered the transfer of energy... She is a hired companion paid for her time and beauty, and she pays the money to further her education and broaden her mind... I tend to have the thought if you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, carry on. But you have to TRULY know that you are OK with what you are doing.

Our chemistry as women tends to betray us in this area when we want to be emotionally detached... hormone Oxytocin known as the "cuddle hormone" is released in larger doses in women when we connect with men. This hormonal reaction will occur whether this is the love of your life or a date to the symphony so it can help with the bond or possibly make you miserable if you live through heightened pleasure without the bond of a true relationship.

So nothing is solved, except the tuition bill. But my question to these women is how do you explain that you have no debt after medical school to the guy you want to marry? And are you truly ok with what you're doing? If the answer is "I'm ok" I have to go with that and realize that it's going to be a matter of your own taste and moral compass... I don't see anything "wrong" with it as a practice, just that it would've been "wrong" for me.

Love Well. Love Wisely.

Justin Bieber Bound

Today is momentous... I am taking my 8 year old daughter to her first concert to see the tween dynamo... Justin Bieber. There's a part of me that wishes it was Disney on Ice; mostly because the pitch of the screams would be missing at a Disney show, but also because this is the beginning of boys entering her radar. I will nurture these "crushes" on rock stars, and actors as long as I can since I don't have to ever worry about them in our daily reality... but it is a reminder that the reality is just around the corner and I'm bracing myself.

Here's to the throes and woes of motherhood...

Love Well. Love Wisely.

5 Reasons Why Divorce is Your Fault

Thought this was a very interesting article on Huffington Post... good read.
Women: 5 Reasons Why Divorce Is Your Fault

While I hate the word "Fault" in the title it is designed to make you want to read what we're being blamed for... it worked. I read the article. Really what it talks about is taking responsibility for your part of the relationship and changing the only part that you have control to change... yourself.
It's a good read.

Love Well. Love Wisely.

Ask Justine's First Video!

So I am new to this whole... video yourself... edit said video... and upload it to YouTube... all via your Ipad!
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Some reminders...

So today I came across a list apparently written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain
Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio. (this info was from an email, so I will leave the fact-checking up to you guys and apologize now if information from the internet was incorrect.)
Whetther or not the information about the author is correct, we have all heard these keys to life and thought we cold all use some reminders...

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short, enjoy it.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up your present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really, it does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to be happy. But it is all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion.Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive AND forget.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

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Love Well. Love Wisely. Ciao!!