There is a "new" way to pay for school... SeekingArrangement.com is a site that caters to the business side of a relationship... many students have been registering on the site to make enough money to pay for school so they aren't riddled with debt when they graduate; this is nothing new really. This is akin to the stripper making her way through med school, these coeds just won't have the employment history to put on their resumes.
MSN Money Article by Bruce Kennedy
Men with wealth and social status have always enjoyed the company of beautiful young women at whatever the price. And women have enjoyed the monetary and social benefits of partnering with these men regardless of the emotional connection. I can honestly believe that cavemen probably had arrangements with lovely cavewomen when they needed to attend the annual "Save the Saber Tooth Tiger Gala"... Ya know, somehow she had to make rent on that penthouse cave she got herself into.
So for a moment lets take actual "paid for sex" out of the picture and talk about the grey area... a paid companion or date that doesn't sleep with whomever hires her. Is this the same as prostitution? Or is this simply the dating game minus the butterflies and hopes of marriage with a pay check... does every woman need every date to be a potential husband? And who are we to judge these people for wanting companionship without the commitment of marriage? We rent a tux for an event... rent clothes that other people have worn to look your best for an event. She's kind of like a tux. Actresses are paid for love scenes, with people we know they don't love, but it's considered art... could this be considered performance art?
Once money changes hands the judgment begins... that somehow the money dirties the date. Money can just be considered the transfer of energy... She is a hired companion paid for her time and beauty, and she pays the money to further her education and broaden her mind... I tend to have the thought if you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, carry on. But you have to TRULY know that you are OK with what you are doing.
Our chemistry as women tends to betray us in this area when we want to be emotionally detached... hormone Oxytocin known as the "cuddle hormone" is released in larger doses in women when we connect with men. This hormonal reaction will occur whether this is the love of your life or a date to the symphony so it can help with the bond or possibly make you miserable if you live through heightened pleasure without the bond of a true relationship.
So nothing is solved, except the tuition bill. But my question to these women is how do you explain that you have no debt after medical school to the guy you want to marry? And are you truly ok with what you're doing? If the answer is "I'm ok" I have to go with that and realize that it's going to be a matter of your own taste and moral compass... I don't see anything "wrong" with it as a practice, just that it would've been "wrong" for me.
Love Well. Love Wisely.
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